#FMF – Should

don't let the shoulds

For two weeks in a row I have completely forgotten and thus missed out on #fmfparty on Twitter! But I shall write on the prompt at least this week!

Love joining this group of people and chatting it up until we get the prompt and then we all break to write for five minutes on one subject. I’ve been part of this group for a couple years now, and I’m so glad that I ventured into it. They are such a blessing to me. Both through their writing and the prayers they offer up for me.

So join us and gather together to write for five minutes on one topic…no editing, and be sure to check out what others around you have written (its a community after all).

should (v) the past tense of shall: used as an auxiliary verb to indicate that an action is considered by the speaker to be obligatory

There has always been alot of things in my life that I feel that I should be doing, or should be feeling, or should be abandoning. Those ‘shoulds’ come from things I’ve read, I’ve heard, I’ve been told.

and perhaps some of those suggestions are helpful, freeing even. But putting a should on something, is pretty much paramount to putting a weight around your neck and letting your shoulders feel its full weight. Sure your grounded, but you’re definitely not moving anywhere very fast. More often then not, for me at least, should has a means of keeping me stuck where I am, rooting my feet to the ground, rather then feeling like something that might free me.

so where do you go from here. there are things that are indeed obligatory. but do you decide these things for yourself. do you decide what should and should not be in your life. There are things that are required for life – eating, drinking, sleeping, some basic self care (ie showering, etc), but after that what kind of obligations does one follow. There are things that we are shown how to follow after in the Bible. there are words that our Lord challenges us with in this same Word. and then…expectations of society, things that have been pressed into your heart.

the should have’s are what weighs me down the most. looking back. not being able to change things. wishing i could. and keeping myself stuck in that dwelling.

i didn’t remember what this week’s prompt was and this morning the above quote struck me as I was reading some prompts and sharing on Story Sister (something that I’m apart of) it stunned me. And it will be my take away about ‘should’ this week.

Don’t let should weigh you down. Don’t let it settle on your shoulders. Take it in, reflect and then do or move on. Don’t let it keep you chained where you are.

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